The friendly skies can be quite intimidating when you’re flying while fat. Will I be able to fit in the seat comfortably with the armrests down? Can I handle the embarrassment of asking for a seatbelt extender if I need one? What should I do if people give me a dirty look? These are all entirely legitimate concerns that we’ll navigate through while we talk about flying while fat.
Let’s start by addressing the reality of flying while fat. Then share tips for planning ahead, and how to reduce your travel anxiety on the big day.
Between TSA and delayed flights, traveling is stressful enough. Here’s to less turbulence ahead when flying while fat!
Flying While Fat Reality:
Even if you do everything I’ll mention below, the reality is that you can’t control the occasional stares and snotty comments people might make. All you can do is try to control how you react. Easier said than done, I know!
As with all topics covered on the Plus Mommy Podcast, I think it’s helpful to know you’re not alone in these experiences. Here’s a video that shares many flying while fat stories.
Before you even pack your bags, if you plan ahead for traveling as a larger person it can help you have a smoother experience.
When booking your flight, research your options. If you’re concerned that you might not fit in the seat contact your airline of choice and see what options you have. Whenever possible, consider Southwest Airlines, as they have an outstanding Customer Of Size Policy that we’ll cover below.
The Facebook group, Flying While Fat, is a wonderful resource where people ask questions, and others chime in with their experiences and tips. This Facebook group is a great space to open up about your concerns and hopefully get some helpful responses.
Southwest Customer Of Size Policy:
With Southwest, if you’re unable to put the armrest down, you can use their Customer Of Size Policy. This means you purchase your own seat and then you can get a free middle seat. Yes, you read that correctly, a free middle seat!
You can either purchase an additional seat in advance, and then get a refund after your flight, or request an additional seat when you arrive at check-in the day of your trip. While I share my experience using this policy within the podcast episode below, please review their policy and contact Southwest Airlines with any questions you may have.
Before we move on, I think it’s important to share that the Southwest Customer Of Size Policy, while wonderful, didn’t start off this way. Since I’m recommending you travel with this airline I want to be transparent and tell you about their unfortunate past.
Southwest used to tell people, who they viewed as “too fat to fly” that they needed to purchase an additional seat. They got some terrible press after director Kevin Smith was removed from a flight because of his size.
Now that you know about this too fat to fly past, please know that I’ve only heard positive stories from plus size people who fly Southwest. Personally, I’ve had great experiences flying while fat with this airline.
Southwest has really turned things around! I’m glad they are now a size-friendly airline that I’m happy to financially support and recommend people fly.
Tips For The Day Of:
Travel is stressful regardless of your size! Here are a few items you can pack in your carry-on that might come in handy well beyond just a neck pillow.
Rescue Remedy – A natural option for reducing stress.
Water Bottle – Airplane bathrooms are not flying while fat friendly! So be sure to go to the bathroom before you board. During your flight try to balance not taking in too many liquids but also be sure to stay hydrated
Plus Size Compression Stockings – These can be helpful for those longer flights!
Plus Size Babywearing Options – If you’re traveling with a baby, being hands-free will make your life a ton easier.
Uplifting Entertainment – Be it a podcast to listen to (**cough, cough** Plus Mommy Podcast) or a novel to read, having something to take your mind off things. Hopefully, you won’t encounter any fat shaming, but sadly there’s nothing on this list that stops people from being crappy. So if you do get a dirty look or a seatmate who makes you feel bad about yourself, try to tune it out as much as possible. Hopefully, you just need this entertainment for nothing else than to pass the time!
Seatbelt Extender – If you need it, ask for an extender! Your safety should always come first. If asking for one is something that makes you feel too embarrassed, then you can purchase one on Amazon. You’ll want to be sure whatever you purchase works with the airline you’re flying. You can contact the airline directly or ask the Flying While Fat Facebook group for some advice.
Self-Care – Be sure to take good care of yourself afterwards. You did a stressful thing and didn’t allow your size to hold you back – be proud!
Each time I fly, I share my expereice over on Plus Mommy Instagram stories to encouage others to not feel limited flying while fat.
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I smile. It’s my armor. I smile as I board the plane knowing people are looking at me – fearing they’ll be stuck sitting next to me. . . I smile as I ask for an extender, knowing the seatbelt won’t fit. . . I smile as I squeeze my body down the aisle to my seat that’s too small. . . I keep smiling during open seating, trying not to notice how everyone quickly walks past my row. All I can do is hope the brave soul that dares to sit next to the fat girl will be kind. I smile because I’m flying the only airline that gives me a free middle seat. I’m comfortable without having to squeeze my body painfully under an armrest that won’t go all the way down. . . I genuinely smile because I won’t allow my size to stop me from traveling thanks to @southwestair and their Customer of Size Policy. Flying while fat will always be difficult but this policy alleviates so much travel anxiety and gives me some of my dignity back. ✈️ Then I stop smiling because I did a difficult thing and I’m proud of myself. #southweststorytellers #flyingwhilefat #plusmommy #plussizemom #plussizetravel
I cover even more about flying while fat within the podcast recording below, so I hope you’ll listen!
Recording & Show Notes: Plus Mommy Podcast Episode 15
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